Dear Concerned Citizen

Dear Concerned Citizen,

This may come as a surprise but your advice is not always solicited, warranted or helpful in a Lupus Warrior’s fight. It can sometimes be overwhelming and obnoxious to say the least.

It’s easy for someone to tell you don’t take the medications they are only making you sicker. It’s easy for someone to tell you that the pharmaceutical companies are making money on creating medications that make you dependent on them. It’s easy for people to pass judgment because you choose to take the medications that keep you alive and operational. It’s easy for people to say you should just go with natural products, or just smoke marijuana, or simply change your eating habits and you’ll be cured. It’s easy for people to say your doctor is taking you for a ride pumping you with medicine that are obviously not working because you are still sick.

It’s easy when you are not battling day to day. When you don’t have to fight to do simple things like get up, brush your teeth, interact with your family. It’s easy when you don’t know anything about what lupus does to a body and how it can ravish and destroy the little soul left after pain killed the rest. It’s easy to say things that don’t help but hurt; Or to speak without thinking how it will affect the person that is not just sick but chronically ill.

Dear concerned citizen, it’s not easy to make the health choices you must make to survive to live a normal life in spite of lupus. It’s not easy to come to the conclusion that your life is forever changed by something that can potentially take your last breath. It’s not as easy as just doing a,b,c or d. If it was we would do it all simply and enjoy a cure. So many people give advice with no knowledge or skills that can assist. It can be frustrating, heartbreaking and painful to endure.

So, before you decide to give unsolicited medical advice, please take a moment to think before you speak, know before you make judgement and learn before you tell others how they should take care of their own health. Your support is appreciated, your judgment and lack of knowledge of what my health care needs are is not.

Love as we Fight,

Lupus Warriors World Wide


One thought on “Dear Concerned Citizen

  1. Growing Nurse Debi says:

    A thousand times YES!!! So many people who have no idea what they’re talking about give so much advice. And, to be perfectly honest, most of the Lupus patients I treat in the hospital are the ones who didn’t take their meds for one reason or another. Yes … the pills have side effects, but their benefits far outweigh the risks. Lupus stinks, and I hate dealing with it myself, but all the meds that people think we should avoid are actually protecting our future and saving our lives. I thank God for every single pill, every single day. ♡


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